This is the next of one of my readers’ questions:  Following on from last weeks angels: Is It Scary When You See An Angel For The First Time? – Community Retreats, this week’s question is: “What about someone that is no longer with us?”

For those interested these questions have come from our Facebook group which can be found here: Community Retreats | Facebook.  Of course, if you are not on this platform, you are welcome to email questions to charlottecoltman@communityretreats.com and if within my scope of work, I will attempt to address when I have a quiet moment to write 😊

So the question: “Is it scary when you connect with someone that is no longer with us?” essentially encompasses mediumship.  We all have the capacity to be a medium, it’s whether we choose to access, utilise and benefit from this skill, however, like all activities beyond the veil it is fraught with misconception, disruption, interference and fear.

Mediumship is the ability to communicate with another soul or being, entity, spirit beyond the veil.  It can be referred to as the “other side”.  One of the most common forms is communicating with loved ones: family, relatives, friends who have passed over.  Probably the best and most obvious example of this in the film world is Whoopi Golberg’s portrayal in Ghost, however, I have to say it doesn’t necessarily need the theatrics, drama and crystal ball!  I would, however, add it is possible for a soul to enter and remain in your energetic field.  So be mindful, when that occurs it can be like someone being in your head quite literally!

I am often asked about the ability to communicate with others from a religious context.  People instantly move to the world witch and how sinful it is to be a medium.  I disagree.  These are abilities we are all endowed with.  History has done sufficient in lambasting these abilities as they are not something that can be controlled. The overriding element in all the discussions is fear.  Which is incongruent with a heart-based activity for starters.  There’s nothing to fear.  There’s nothing wrong.  It might even be as simple as word association.

When embarking on your spiritual journey, your relatives and loved ones are there.  They observe, however, they won’t make their presence known until you are ready.  Ancestors are there not only support; some too can guide.  And often a family member can feel energetically different the other side – passing over they can often leave behind grudges and personal challenges so you may find them more loving.  This, however, does assume they have fully transitioned across the planes and are in a heart-based frequency.  For souls stuck, it’s a different story.

Souls can get stuck on the sixth astral plane.  Souls dying in traumatic circumstances will often not transition fully.  This is when you can have that feeling of being haunted by someone.  It’s the frequency you are picking up.  I do not support activities such as Ouija boards where people call in spirits or those that offer tours to haunted houses – it’s often taunting souls who are already struggling.  We can best support them through intention to fully pass to the other side.  Place rose quartz on a sunny window sill for a couple of weeks, sometimes longer and the soul will transition with your support and loving intention.

Seeing, hearing, communicating with souls no longer with us will change as we shift our frequency.  First it might be a felt presence, then being able to converse and more easily recognising when they are around.  If a soul wants to communicate with me, I will feel a cold presence in front of my face quite literally which can be somewhat intrusive though does succeed in getting my attention.  Then you may be able to see form particularly if for example you are working through some ancestral healing.  (Ancestral Healing: Healing For The Future Generations – Community Retreats).  It may then change again – I now see my mum in holographic form as the true soul she is.  Think Star Wars and holographic messages!  That’s truly the easiest way for me to explain!

We are going through some incredibly turbulent times.  Many souls are choosing to leave this planet at this time (remember it is their soul choice).  This is evident by the increased death rates in many countries, not reported by our mainstream media.  This will continue as souls go as far as they can with the increasing energetics and light bombardment.  The good news is that your loved one is always there.  Agreed it isn’t going to given back all those times and hugs, I get it.  After fourteen years or so, the thing I miss most is hugs with my Mum, but you can communicate with them, spend time with them, converse, feel and see them.  Their form is different and it takes getting used to.

So, to directly answer the question: Is it scary?  No not if they have fully transitioned.  The only time it might be is if they are stuck and for that support can be provided to enable them to transition.  And for those playing with a Ouija board and out ghost hunting, please rethink.  It’s time we support each other, not exploit.  These kinds of things do have a karmic element!